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What you are experiencing now, is a lot like being lost in a brain fog that you have come to feel as your normal.
As you emerge out of this bio-chemical depressive fog, everything hurts, you are not sure you will ever recover and you are questioning the core of who you really are so you slip back into the fog.
Or you may have invested yourself in the relationship and all the latest communication and relationship tools and now feel the relationship has continued to erode and you have no more to give.
So they leave you - or you break up – or one of you finally decides not to reconcile, yet again.
It is a wake up call that you may have fallen into something far more sinister and dysfunctional than just common relationship problems.
Here is the real deal, when you’ve been attacked by, messed around, manipulated and controlled, rejected repeatedly, frantically clung to and unceremoniously dumped (maybe many times) by a Borderline Personality Disorder woman, you get worn down.
It is ironic that ‘chaos’ theory can be linked to life after a ‘Borderline’ relationship, as there is nothing more chaotic than this type of relationship… Twenty-years ago I had a girlfriend who liked classical music.
I was unfamiliar with this type of music at that time, but time in that relationship exposed me to a ‘new’ type of music that I was unacquainted with before.
You find yourself hopelessly trapped by your own desires to rekindle a relationship that you know isn't healthy, and in fact, may not even be available to you.
This is something that I have spent the last few months thinking about, since the demise of my own ‘Borderline’ relationship, hence the protracted time since my last post. Simplistically, in chaos theory, the butterfly effect is the sensitive dependence on initial conditions, where a small change at one place in a nonlinear system can result in large differences to a later state.
The name of the effect, coined by Edward Lorenz, is derived from the theoretical example of a hurricane’s formation being contingent on whether or not a distant butterfly had flapped its wings several weeks before.
There are times [when our relationship] has plummeted to the depths whereby we were both ready to give up.” Between the periods of elation and bliss come what Paddy calls “bad phases.” “Sometimes among the arguments, the fits of anger and rage, the distrust, the paranoia, the mood swings, it seems like my girlfriend is a completely different person.” In the worst of times, he likens dating someone with Borderline Personality Disorder to having a relationship with someone who has dementia.
“Sometimes they look into their parent’s eyes and they see a spark. The person they knew and love is still there, somewhere deep down inside.